Dear Younger Me,
As I sit down to write this letter, I can’t help but smile thinking about the excitement and anticipation you feel about your future marriage. There’s so much I wish I could tell you, so here are a few pieces of advice from someone who has walked the path you’re about to embark on.
Embrace Imperfection
Marriage is not a fairy tale, and that’s okay. Both you and your partner are imperfect beings, and that’s what makes your journey unique. Embrace the flaws and quirks in each other. It’s these imperfections that will make your bond stronger.
Communication is Key
Never underestimate the power of open and honest communication. Share your thoughts, dreams, and fears with your partner. Listening is just as important as speaking. Make it a habit to talk openly about everything, even the tough stuff.
Cultivate Patience
Patience is more than a virtue; it’s a necessity. There will be times when you don’t see eye to eye, and that’s perfectly normal. Instead of reacting with frustration, take a deep breath and approach the situation with patience and understanding.
Prioritize Quality Time
In the hustle and bustle of life, it’s easy to take each other for granted. Make time for each other, no matter how busy you get. Whether it’s a weekly date night or a quiet evening at home, these moments of connection are vital for your relationship.
Don’t Keep Score
Marriage is not a competition. It’s not about who does more or who sacrifices the most. Let go of the need to keep score and focus on supporting each other. Celebrate each other’s successes and be a team in times of struggle.
Forgiveness is Powerful
You will make mistakes, and so will your partner. Holding onto grudges will only harm your relationship. Practice forgiveness and let go of past hurts. It’s not about forgetting but about moving forward together.
Maintain Your Individuality
While it’s important to grow together, don’t lose sight of who you are as an individual. Pursue your passions, maintain your friendships, and take time for self-care. A healthy marriage is one where both partners support each other’s personal growth.
Love Evolves
Love will change and evolve over time. The honeymoon phase will pass, and a deeper, more mature love will take its place. Appreciate every stage of your relationship and understand that change is a natural part of growth.
Be Each Other’s Cheerleader
Support your partner’s dreams and ambitions, and they will support yours. Be their biggest fan and encourage them to reach for the stars. A strong marriage is built on mutual encouragement and belief in each other.
Seek Help When Needed
There’s no shame in seeking help if you face challenges in your marriage. Whether it’s through counseling, books, or trusted friends, don’t hesitate to reach out for support. It’s a sign of strength, not weakness.
Remember, marriage is a beautiful journey filled with ups and downs, laughter and tears. Cherish the moments, learn from the challenges, and always choose love. You’ve got this.
With all my love and grace,
Your Older, Much Wiser Self